It is never the victim’s fault, they say. However, most of those affected still feel the inevitable guilt that sexual assault brochures assure against. Is this proof that the problem lies in the inability to define a victim? Skanks, whores, and bitches; surely they ask for it. Easy nymphomaniacs, nothing more than thirsty sluts. A man cannot be blamed for giving into his immoral desires upon encountering such a temptress, because there is not much other logical explanation for her dressing provocatively and being outspokenly flirtatious than because of her insatiable thirst for sexual gratification. This leaves a puzzling question: what is it that turned a beautiful soul into this creature of impurity? Well, if one does some research he or she will find that many sexually promiscuous women that society labels as dirty become so due to a traumatizing experience early in one’s sex life in which they were put in a position of subordination and discomfort. Feeling as if they were taken advantage of and had no control over their own bodies, they then subconsciously seek out more and different sexual partners in secure situations, beginning a lifestyle that is not understood by most. In fact, most would be surprised at how many women felt pressured or coerced into their first sexual encounters. Regrettably, barely an eyelid is batted when these same women are labeled as ‘thirsty hoes’ in the future after actually taking ownership of their bodies.

We are the tramps of society, destined to be defamed and used for other’s enjoyment. We do not deserve the respect we make so much noise about: just take a look at our questionable decisions and regrettable choices. We willingly chose to be sexually liberated, and along with it must deal with the price of discrimination and demeaning words. Why would we even want to be loose, are we not asking to be objectified? Of course it is not the same as when our counterparts engage in these actions. For them, it is a rite of passage and, do not worry, a man of character would never make a longterm commitment to such a dirty creature. They are just boys being boys, experimental at most. He was most likely ‘just too drunk’ if he crossed a boundary, and everyone knows that he cannot be held accountable for actions committed while so deeply in a state of inebriation that he cannot even remember it. Poor thing. It’s okay, everyone makes mistakes. At least give him the benefit of the doubt.

This disgustingly hypocritical double standard in society is infuriating. Not only is judgment plaguing the minds of men, but also contaminating women’s pride in themselves. We are poisoned against loving and supporting our fellow sisters due to the processes of socialization conditioning us to compete with one another for the approval of others, and are subconsciously taught that we cannot enjoy the success we are capable of acquiring while there are other females threatening us. Why? Because while being professionally viewed as ‘one of the guys’ is desirable, there is nothing more annoying than being viewed as yet another bitchy and uptight girl. Too many women describe themselves as “the type of girl that doesn’t get along with other girls.” Who, then, is the type of person that wants to get along with girls? Keeping in mind that the term ‘get along with’ in this context refers to completely non-sexual friendships, the list is narrowed down to close to none. Furthermore, there are regrettably so many victimizing words that are wholly and fully defaming to females that do not apply to men at all. This must be so, we are taught, because a ratchet, thirsty, whorish prostitute that constantly ‘puts out’ must be labeled in order for society to understand her. Many of these names are arguably only used in facetious, demeaning insults. However, is humor at the expense of another’s tears really humorous at all? The mouth is the most cancerous weapon, and the wounds caused by its words have the ability to cause irreparable damage that no amount of therapy, psychiatric medication, or self-help can mend.

Thus, to females, there is nothing stopping Her from being as beautiful, wonderful, strong, and independent as the ideal self in Her dreams. Whether or not we live happily as we want to while suffering injustices and judgment, or as meek, engineered products of a man’s world, there is no easy way out of the paradox that life presents to us. However, once the mind is freed from the dungeon of society’s judgments and expectations on the proper way to live, fulfillment awaits containing infinite possibilities.